Learning to keep quiet

Everybody has the urge to say "I asked you about 10 times last week, what do you mean you forgot?"
Saying that is the easy way to score points and we all like to score points. It makes us feel right, and right makes you feel better than the other person. But, feeling better than the other person is really such a short lived feeling, because really what we all want is for the other person to feel better about us. We like to say "I told you so" because that makes us feel smarter, but not smarter to the rest of the world. The other person feels bad and then they think bad things about you... like "I hate it that you were right and its not nice that I feel bad, so I will think bad things about you and then we can both feel bad."
Really, want you want a relationship to feel good, you learn never to say I was right and I told you so and you are wrong... because what that ends end meaning is, I was right and I am better than you... then, obviously that person is not going to feel good about you and you won't feel the love from the other person, which is really what you wanted in the first place. Because mostly we do not care about being right, we care about the world liking us.